I’m not going to lie. It’s been a rough year. Many unexpected changes. But today is Christmas. A day of hope and promise. I stayed in my PJs all day today. It was a quiet, peaceful day with Tina, Nick, and the dogs.
Tina made a gift for me at Pottery Worx. I re-gifted a DVD to her. Pancakes for breakfast. Chicken and veggies for lunch.
I cleaned off the front porch, put equipment in the shed, re-potted a couple of plants, mopped the floor, cleaned the kitchen counters, watched some YouTube videos, changed the headers on all of my social media channels…
I turned a major corner this weekend. I have had trouble moving on with my life because I have been blaming others or circumstances for where I am.
I was listening to Tony Robbins the other day, and he was blaming his mother for all that he has become and everything he has accomplished in his life. His mother physically abused him as a child — even chasing him out of the house with a knife when he was 17. He could easily have let that destroy him and then blame her for it. But he didn’t.
I listened to David Goggins a black kid who grew up 2 miles from the KKK headquarters. He had an abusive father. He was bullied and threatened. He had sickle cell anemia, asthma, and a congenital heart defect. His high school GPA was 1.6. He went on to become a Navy Seal and a top endurance athlete. [Disclaimer: If you listen to any David Goggins videos, he curses a LOT! If you can get past that, he’s incredibly inspiring.]
These are just two of the stories I listened to. There are countless others. In fact, I would wager that a high percentage of those who have achieved success have done so in spite of bad treatment, negative circumstances, and bad luck.
What do they all have in common? They have owned their circumstances. They understand that even if they didn’t directly cause what happened to them in the past, they control their reaction to what happened. They own the circumstances no matter who or what “caused” them. And in taking ownership, they take power and control over them.
What I have come to realize is, as long as you blame someone else for where you are in life, you have given them power over you and your circumstances — and you remain powerless to change. But, if you own where you are, if you own your circumstances, good or bad, right or wrong, no matter how they came about, then you have the power to change them.
A new year is right around the corner — just one week away. What will you do with it? Will you continue to blame someone else, the president, the economy, life, bad luck or even God for where you are, or will you accept responsibility and change?
Something new is coming. Right now, I’m calling it The Motivation Project. Whatever is holding you back, I challenge you to own it. Make 2018 the year you finally get things done.
I believe in you,